Your Life Really Matters!

Authentic motivations

In addition to our personal software, the environment also plays a key role. The intrinsic and important human motivation of wanting and being able to belong to the group infringes on our self-expression and limits ourselves. There are various formal and informal taboos (often unconscious) that influence how we react and behave daily. Growth starts by first identifying the various taboos that prevent us from manifesting the things that are truly aligned with whom we are. The goal is to release ourselves from these fixed patterns and limiting beliefs so that we can have more freedom, which we, as unique individuals, want to experience in life. Away from primary motivations such as survival and towards self-expression that we often unconsciously long for (authentic motivations) but we dare not reveal.

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We all have our unpleasant moments such as being grumpy when life is difficult, when we can't express ourselves and when the environment seems to turn against us. When this happens, we tend to take it out on the people around us, which causes more tension. But people also end up in situations that eventually become structural. It might seem like a paradox, but when you focus more on getting your life on track, you can become an asset in helping others around you. Then you don't take your personal frustrations out on others. The best way to manifest this is by pursuing your desires which are based on your personal values, from tangible to specific ones. This can be done in your daily activities according to the 'Ten Steps', which simultaneously also helps you identify your own shortcomings, which might eventually hinder manifesting the person you want to become. This clearly enables you in creating things that truly matter to you in life.

The fact that we want to change and improve our lives for the better might not necessarily guarantee that others around you will also be happy as well.  Personal taboos and other people’s personal programming do not always make it easier for us. In fact, it can stir up a lot of emotions in someone else, as the person has completely identified with something that is at odds with how you see or desire things. Those are people who have become what they do or think. This can impact your energy management towards your own personal growth and therefore remaining vigilant.

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Persevere and energize!

Routinely asking yourself if you are doing what you want, why you are doing the things you are doing, and how you can achieve them are important steps towards your personal growth. Just the same, maintaining it is equally important. Following up on what you had in mind and continuing with regular maintenance makes all the difference in achieving long-term results. By routinely reviewing four possible fixed patterns, you will identify if you are backsliding at an early stage and will be able to readjust and get back on track on your journey to what matters.

We often long for a different and better world. But it initially starts with yourself, and not looking around at what others are doing. Trying to figure out if the chicken or the egg comes first only makes it more complicated in determining who and what is responsible for how you experience your life, and how others react to your pursuit of finding satisfaction and purpose in life. We must chart our own course, realizing and accepting that we are all in the same boat struggling with the same questions and pitfalls in life. The only distinction is that each individual addresses them differently. Instead of 'regarding life from a perspective of seclusion or isolation, challenge yourself and view it from a perspective of connection and regarding others as fellow travelers in the journey of personal awakening. Work on yourself together, give each other the needed space to evolve in their own way. This will energize and motivate you in navigating your own journey.

If we don’t take control of our own lives, then who will?

If life is malleable or not, doesn’t make a difference. In fact, the discussion only distracts us from getting to the core of how to live life the best way possible. It is crucial to realize that we can maximize our influence on how we face daily realities. The way we approach our personal experiences makes all the difference in how we experience and enables us to gain control of our lives. Having the guts to say to yourself 'I want to matter to myself' is the most important motivation to design your life in a way that helps you get the most out of it. This knowledge will help you stay the course. Together with personal insights about your own operating manual and those of others, you will be able to stay the course in your journey of becoming your true authentic self. Everyone is trying to figure out the pieces of the puzzle. While on Earth it is your primary responsibility to put your puzzle pieces together the best way you can. It’s like the airplane safety demonstration. “Put your own oxygen mask on first before your children’s”. It starts by taking care of yourself. You can’t help anybody else if you do not have any oxygen.